Mountains Of Mine

  My mountains are big.  They are towering, glorious things in which I feel so small next to.  Sometimes climbing them leaves me refreshed and accomplished and sometimes they beat me down to pulp and teach me who's my daddy.  Those day suck.  Sooooo much.  But, these mountains of mine are not so unique as I once thought they were.  They are not as individually designed just for me as I once assumed.  They are mountains that I believe I climb alongside so many others, but am too tunnel visioned to see.  I have co-climbers and my mountains are not mine at all, they are ours.
  Mountain number one giving me grief is being a divorcee.  I am on a very crowed mountain there, but we are all so quiet about our climb on that steep wall.  The grief we carry within is so deep, so real, so powerful, and so private.  But I am going to shout from this mountain-side right now:  I am with you!  I hurt too!  I survived that death just like you did and I carry such similar battle scars as you do!  You are NOT alone.  I understand your aching hearts, your wounded dreams, your sorrow when you have to sleep in your home with children gone to the other parent and feel partially dead until they return to you.  I know loneliness and guilt, shame and failure.  I know freedom after escaping a prison cell that was once a castle.  I am with you.  I am climbing right next to you.  It stops hurting with time and with love from God and those close to you.  You still have ghosts within and around you that you will deal with, but the hole punched through you does recede somehow.  Hang in there and keep climbing.
  Mountain number two belongs to VCFS/DiGeorge Syndrome.  This mountain was a nasty, sneaky little bugger.  It played hide with and seek with everyone like a friggen possessed mirage from Hades for E's first 16 months.  Made me look clinically insane at times and made me learn to be as aggressive as necessary in fighting for my voiceless baby.  Made me learn when to trust myself and my instincts as a mother.  It also forced me to understand that I am quite powerless, but that God is omnipotent.  Until the day I surrendered to my Father in Heaven and gave my will over to him as a mother and promised to simply act out of love of my child and her best interests instead of being relentless at any and everyone to find the problem, I was nowhere closer to knowing anything.  But the moment I gave it over to Him, He was ready to open up the minds and hearts of those who could help her to figuring it all out.  I learned that sometimes, the climb is not mine, it is His.  He wants us to climb together as a team.  He needs us to be brought to our knees so that we can see that he is right there fighting the good fight by our side or for us completely.
  VCFS is so vast.  It is so unique to each of the babies born with it.  One, teeny, tiny, little missing piece in one, teeny, tiny, little section of your 22nd chromosome can change a baby's course in the most immense and shocking ways.  It can whisk their lives away before a year old or it can be a part of who they are from birth until they meet great-great-grandchildren.  It is a custom job having this syndrome and not in a fun and happy new car kind of way.  You have to learn the exact formula of VCFS your child has through myriads of tests, both invasive and not.  You have to take them to teams of up to or more than nine doctors that coordinate global treatment plans to give your child a fighting chance at a healthy and happy life.  You have to sit in waiting rooms during therapies and while your love goes under the knife for the first, fifth, tenth... time.  You learn faith when you watch your child get put under anesthesia and realize how powerless you really are really quick.  You learn signs of distress in your child so subtle that no one but you can see it, but you are the one that saves their life over and over with your fast response.  You are a hero to your VCFS child.  And God is your hero.  You are a TEAM.
  He is in the surgery rooms, the waiting rooms, the therapy sessions, the IEP meetings, the doctor's offices, the emergency rooms, the hospital rooms.  He is giving you courage when you watch your child fight for their life doing all you can to help them heal and he is how they fight for their life and win.  You are not alone because aside from all the other families climbing this mountain, our Father, our Creator, and our Best Friend is pushing, pulling, or even carrying us all up that steep incline.  This mountain sometimes makes me feels so beaten down, so scraped up, so TIRED, so overwhelmed.  But then I can look at her face, feel her head on my shoulder, see her laugh or dance or play joyously and I can see all that I give is nothing compared to all I would be willing to give just to see her keep living so brilliantly.  She is radiant and strong and brave and pure and loving.  Boundaries do not exist in what I would go through to help her share that light for as long as God will allow.
  Mountain number three is the freshest of the batch.  Autism.  Pervasive Developmental Disorder.  Aspergers.  G has shown signs for quite some time dating back to talking later than was "normal" while excelling at other motor skills and going full-speed without regard of boundaries.  With signs of something being significantly distressed within her a year and a half ago, I sought out therapy for her and all avenues of help and support I could manage.  With road blocks and dead-ends being a constant uphill battle in trying to narrow down what to make of her oddities and struggles, this mountain felt like it was just made of mazes.  It still does to be honest.  It feels like the strangest sensation of going nowhere while never stopping your feet.  Where the heck am I now?  I thought we made it over there, but we are back to this same stick on the ground or rock we saw last week!  What the heck is that animal supposed to be?  Does that thing even exist?!  It is a disorienting mountain.  You never know where you stand, where you are supposed to be, or where exactly it is you are supposed to arrive at the end of it all.
  With much more in-depth testing about to take place, all I can do is let God run the show because I am all tuned around backwards... forwards?... wait, left?... aw crap, still have no clue where we are.  G and I have come so, soooo far through her therapy and yet we still feel oddly adrift.  Some issues have been so well managed while others take their place and we have to somehow find a new approach in coping with that new exciting development (facetiousness alert!).  She is brilliantly intelligent.  I am talking an I.Q. high enough to make you whistle.  Her vocabulary shames adults.  She is a math whiz.  She is beautiful and gifted.  She need ear muffs so that sounds don't send her off a cliff of the mountain.  She has boundaries about touch.  She needs patience when her brain feels like she is losing control and she works feverishly to reestablish it no matter what that takes or who is standing her in path.  She is a big person stuck in a little body.  Oh how I love her.  Her mountain is not so much new as it is just now labeled.  Dealing with the deeper meaning behind that label is what we are now working on.  That is okay though because we are not going to give up or give out.  We are in this together.  We are a family.
  You have mountains.  Some of mine I have already climbed, danced is jig on the top, mooned anyone looking, and skidded my way down the other side.  Others I had to lean on those stronger than myself, hugged them once we reach the top, and held hands as we descended to level ground for a while.  I hope that knowing about mine helps you know that we all have them, we are FAR from alone on them, and to never ever give up.  You've got this.

Don't Stand So Close To Me

  I am not your type.  I am not really anyone's type.  I am not even a required taste or a delicacy to any.  I am mine.  I am my own.  With that said, I am also not going to bend or shift or budge from who I am to appease anyone.  I will not use anyone else's lingo or fall into their beliefs to make them like me.  I have learned some hard and important lessons about what being myself, in my own body, in my own mind, with my own values and purpose, really even means.  I have found healing power in God, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Ghost.  Those entities are three distinct, powerful, beautiful, love-driven, sources of the deepest moments of peace, joy, calm, and love I have even experienced.  They are why I am here, why my precious babies are here, and why all of you are here.  Tah dah.  That is IT.
  I have endured a life filled with experiences that some find too graphic or ugly or uncomfortable to hear.  I have literally LIVED through acts so evil by the hands of others that if I try to open up and find a place to confide, it is overwhelming for the other person and they make me stop talking or try to switch over to how "great" I am doing "now".  They are not desensitized like me so they are feeling things about my own life that I do not even remembering feeling myself.  That is something I am finally grasping.  I am able to have gone through those experiences because God took over.  He made it so that I could live past it and still be functional and someday heal enough to love.  I knew God before anyone taught me anything because when those moments of terror or hurt took place, he took the wheel and allowed me to retreat far away.  He very much was my protector and I knew Him just as I knew my mom or sister or grandma or any other family member.  He NEVER left my side or left me to the wolves.  Not ever.
  I am 31 years old today.  When I married, I thought all my woes were behind me and I moved forward into a life of being a devout member of the church.  I had a perfect baby with my husband, got sealed to my husband in a temple, and felt my life was on a chartered flight to eternal happiness.  I absolutely expected some trials here and there, but I certainly wanted to invest completely in my fairy tale no matter how absurd that may seem.  I wanted my nightmares to be gone and over and for phase two to be a relief.  Some of it absolutely was, while other things lingered unhealed and in need of care.  I knew I would get to those issues over time but I had to be patient and wait until the season would come.
  When my world unraveled and I was left a divorcee with four little ones starting phase three (out of who knows how many) of my life, I knew I had to move on and push through it.  The way that has occurred is not what I expected it to be.  I failed myself in some areas, was failed by others, was uplifted and loved and supported without question by others, and learned strengths in myself I never knew I possessed.  After being abandoned by a faith I loved as much as I loved my own family members, I had to somehow try to figure out what to do next.  I chose a time-out.  I chose to stay close to the people that have unconditionally loved me all my life or at least as long as I have known them that do not require anything of me more than that I am me.  I don't have to say or do or NOT DO anything for them because I am good enough for their love and acceptance no matter what.
  I have felt like a piece of my identity was left out to hang indefinitely.  Just adrift in the wind, flapping around, not really sure what to do with it.  Before my faith I was a very shattered and cold person.  In my experience, everyone was out to get me and if I sensed them ready to strike, I was ready to strike first or strike last, if not both.  I grew up with country-girl "street smarts".  The gospel soothed my scarred soul, gave me answers I so deeply longed for, and made me feel safe.  I was surrounded by eager support and welcoming demeanor from all.  I have NEVER felt more peace and oneness with my creator in all my life than I did the moment I was raised from the waters of baptism.  It was profound.  I was clean and weightless and filled with joy.  You can't possibly know how heavy your burdens are until Jesus Christ himself lifts them permanently from you.  There is no other experience I can compare it to.
  I feel forgotten.  One single angry woman purged my name of good to all she could reach.  She somehow justified to other "Christians" that she was somehow in the right for putting myself and my four innocent children on the street.  That is actually okay.  I can't say I am angry because I am not.  I am sad.  I am wounded in a way that I cannot possibly explain to anyone who has not experienced it themselves.  Most importantly I am done trying to prove my worth to anyone who doesn't want to see it.  I know my Creator adores me.  He crafted me with love and care and joy and sent me here to a world that may not possess the qualities of Heaven, but does possess the ability to allow me into Heaven someday with what I do here.  It is my job to be good, all our job.  To be kind.  To forgive.  To grow.  To recognize sins and turn them into lessons.  To raise hand-crafted pieces of God and somehow teach them what matters and what doesn't.
  So, to my lovely and precious friends out there:  I am not going to your church or any other right now.  I have no definite plans on where I will go or what I will do.  I know what I believe and I know what feels right and wrong.  I just need time to deal with the words, actions, and lack of actions that have transpired both good and bad.  I am so so sorry if that hurts you or offends you or makes you remove me from your life.  I am not going to do or not do things to appease anyone.  I am going to cope with what I need to through Heavenly Father, my Savior, and the Holy Ghost until they give me the go-ahead to do anything big.  You have all impacted my life in a beautiful way.  You would not be so important to my heart had you not.  I hope you stay with me and do not decide to distance yourselves based on any changes that come along in me.  I am up against some odds that are mountains from where I stand and I am doing my best.
  I am doing my best.

So Imperfect and So Little Time

  I am outnumbered and completely imperfect.  I am a mother of four and every other week I have my soon-to-be stepson here with me while L is at work.  School is starting in a month and a half in our county and that isn't just the children's school starting, I go back to college full-speed and full-time as well.  I have been struggling to stay on task or stay on schedule with my home and exercise goals for the last couple of weeks and with school adding on top of my daily routine, I had to get myself back on track now and not later.  I did some searching on Pintrest.  I am addicted to Pintrest and I admit it lol.  I realized that I need to develop good habits and I thought about the habits I wanted to work into most.  In my Pintrest searching, I found some ideas that I liked and I made it happen here in my home today.  I start this tomorrow.
  The first idea I found was this:

The idea is that you think of a habit you want to develop.  You get post-it tabs and number them however many days you want to do it in a row until you feel you will be in a habit of doing it.  Each day you complete it, you pull the post-it off.  If you miss a day, you put them back up and you start over.  I researched how long it takes to develop a habit and the results are all over the place, so I opted for 30 days because that is a full month straight.  Now, I am poor so I wanted to do this without a trip to the store to buy post-it tabs and I used stuff from around my house.  Remember L's proposal and all those paper cranes he made me?  Well those cranes had leftover paper strips the exact right shape so I decided to use those and tape I already have around.

  I made a goal list of things I want to work most on and get much more consistent about performing each day and I made my strips.  I put them up in my room and bathroom where I can lock a door and keep the five sets of little hands from destroying all my work.  Kids are great at destroying houses.

• Goal 1 is to brush and floss the kids and I's teeth twice a day.  That is a lot of effort, but it is extremely important for everyone's mouths to be happy and healthy.  The flossing will be the new part and we will see how that adventure turns out...

• Goal 2 is to consistently do at least on load of laundry a day.  (Missing even one day with this many people can lead to disaster.)
• Goal 3 is to seriously reinforce helping all the kids do age-appropriate chores to keep the downstairs clean.  I can do it myself, but it doesn't teach them to be responsible and understand how crappy it is to clean up if you trash your home.  Ahhh, the beauty of teaching consequences.
• Goal 4 is to do my deep cleaning of either one room in the house, my van, or the yards.  I have a schedule that covers the whole house:  Monday- downstairs bathroom, desk area, and dusting; Tuesday- vacuuming the stairs and upstairs hall and cleaning the kid's bathroom; Wednesday- cleaning the kids rooms and changing the linens; Thursday- cleaning my bathroom; Friday- cleaning my bedroom; Saturday- cleaning my van and doing yard work; Sundays- I am willing to do some catching up on excess laundry, but I hesitate with it being a day of rest and the Sabbath.
• Goal 5 is to exercise.  I want to say that biking did some serious damage to my body so I am backing off of it and going to a lot more strength training instead.  It burns more and protects your body from burning muscle fibers for energy instead of fat.  Aerobic burns equal parts fat and muscle.
• Goal 6 is a way for me to get all these kiddos clean without overwhelming myself every night.  I have decided to rotate girls and boys each night to lessen the dread of scrubbing down everyone every night.  This may not be a big deal for someone with one or two kids, but when you have a litter of kids, it is a genuine issue when you are exhausted from a long day full of cleaning, cooking, kid-watching, and exercising.

Pardon my smudgy scale, it is well used lol.

• Goal 7 is to weigh in each morning and track everything I eat.  I have gained back about four pounds from my two week respite and have to get back on the wagon.  I have a dry erase sticker up that I can track what I weighed the previous day or write down words of encouragement to myself.

  As a way of visually seeing my progress with weight loss, I found this idea:

So I came up with my own version with things I have around the house: 

Instead of fish bowl pebbles, I decided to use the paper cranes from L's proposal to me.  I get to feel loved every morning while moving cranes as the pounds come off.  Basically a win-win way to start my day.

I think we all have things we don't do at all or don't do enough that we really want to develop into a good habit.  For me I have to get my life back in order after feeling really bad physically last week and not staying on top of my stuff like I should have as a result.  School is closing in and we will all have A LOT on our plates so getting into strong, positive habits is going to be imperative in keeping everything running smoothly.  Feel free to try out these ideas and let me know if they work for you and I will be checking in with my progress.  Here is to healthy habit building!

2013 Arch Rivals: Heroes vs. Villains 5k

  Well we did it!  After training for a month and a half to be ready, L and I ran in the 2013 Arch Rivals: Heroes vs. Villains 5k today!  It was a long and difficult training process for me and the conditioning I did required a lot of commitment and discipline.  Oddly enough, the hardest discipline I experienced was making myself stop all training the week before the 5k.  I was training so hard for a month and a half straight that the strain on my body became loud and I chose to listen to my body to avoid injury and be really rested before participating in the 5k.  I was experiencing numbness, nerve pain, excessive fatigue, and soreness that did not feel like a good kind of sore.  I took a whole week off to rest my body, research possible changes I could make to my training to protect my body, and just trusted that all my conditioning and hard work would not undo itself over seven days.  I was right to take the time off and it was very healing for my body.
  This 5k was themed heroes versus villains and everyone that registered got to pick if they were coming as a hero or villain.  L and I had to come up with costume ideas!  I thought about running jokes about me from friends and family and decided on She Hulk and after thinking over villain ideas, I asked L what he thought of going as Clu from the movie Tron and he was all in!  We had to come up with ideas on how to make running friendly versions of these characters for costumes because I was not going to be covered in green body paint or a spandex bodysuit and L was not going to run in leather or rubber like the Tron characters.  So we got creative.  We found concept pics online as a start:

This one made me laugh because I am engaged and lovin it myself lol.

Clu from the movie Tron from every angle.

  I decided that in order to avoid full body paint and the heat stroke of running in a swim suit, I was going to put together a sporty, running friendly She Hulk inspired costume.  Then with L I wanted to make it running friendly, but very obviously Clu from Tron.  I decided on a black wife beater and black running shorts and L and I decided on lots and lots of duct tape for the design.  I knew that She Hulk has some serious hair so I asked my mom to do bandanna curlers the night before and I looked... special lol.

Bandanna curlers.

  Once my curlers were in, L and I got some half priced shakes from Sonic and went to making his costume.  Today we headed out of town at 6:30 am to drive to Reno and check in for the 5k!  We got our packets, shirts, cups, number bibs, and water.  Did our warm-up walk, stretched, and got some before pictures:

My very green She Hulk inspired costume.

Striking a pose.

I did the costume and L made his disc.

The back of L's Clu costume.

Ready to go!

  I made one simple goal for my 5k run- jog the entire 3.11 miles with no stopping or walking.  I got my mp3 player ready and they called us all to the starting line.  We listened to the Jimmy Hendrix rendition of "The Star Spangled Banner" and they did the countdown.  L and I said our "I love you's" and agreed to see each other at the finish line.  5...4...3...2...1...GO!  I turned on my music and eased into a steady and solid pace and told myself that I was in this to finish without stopping once, nothing else.  L is an insanely awesome runner so I watched as he disappeared into the lead group and I settled into my pace and enjoyed seeing all the amazing costumes ahead and with me.

  As faster runners would pass me and I would feel mildly competitive or dismayed, I would remind myself of my goals and also remind myself that no matter what, I was still going fast enough to pass people walking.  I never once stopped jogging.  I came to the finish line at 32 minutes and 5 seconds!  I made place 90 out of 245 people!  That was a huge win for me because until today I have never run a full non-stop 5k before and today I crossed it off my list.  I ran a 10 1/2 minute mile for over three miles straight!  L kicked some serious butt.  L completed his run in 18th place with a time of 23 minutes and 56 seconds.  He is friggin amazing and I am so incredibly excited and happy that I had him by my side at the start and waiting for me at the finish line.

  Once we finished, we got more water and let our bodies cool down until the race results came in for us to see our times and places.  This was an amazing and fantastic experience and I am soooo looking forward to the next event we have planned on Friday here in town called the Recycle 5k Run.

L and I post-run.

Sporting our awesome shirts from the 5k.  "My cape & tights are in the wash."

The back of the 5k shirt.

Our superhero cup for good memories.

Glorious Raucous

  Lately I have been able to take in and think back on the moments of true joy I experience.  As I ride my bike or jog with music blaring in my ears, a song will start and take me back to a moment of either discomfort or incredible happiness.  The ones that remind me of a time of discomfort get skipped over until a song starts up and triggers a memory that makes air taste sweeter starts and I enjoy the ride of memories.  One of my favorite songs to hear start up is "I Will Wait" by Mumford & Sons.  When that song came out and I heard it, I really liked the lyrics so I downloaded it onto my computer.  I was working at Big R and felt like I never got enough time with my kids so when I actually did have time, I would turn on my itunes and have a dance party with them.  One night "I Will Wait" came on and I got up and danced with my children all around the front room with them.  I would dance and they would follow after filling the room with the sound of their joyous laughter.

  We would run in circles or I would scoop one of them up and dance like wild while they clung excitedly around my neck.  That is something that my children need.  Me to just sweep them up in my arms and dance like wild.  The sound of their loud laughter and words a cacophony that fills the room like perfume so sweet you can almost taste it on the tip of your tongue.  When the remake of the song "Ice Cream" by Walk Off the Earth (original version is by John Mayer) comes on, I feel that falling in love sensation of when L and I first started dating.  That butterflies sensation and inability to conceal the pure excitement that you go through when you meet The One and every text from them sends you into a state of uncontrollable smiling and giggling.  Sometimes a song will have no real meaningful attachment until it comes on during a jog or bike or car ride and it just seems to punch you in the face with meaning out of nowhere.

  I have a tendency to love hard music when I run because the intensity and words are therapeutic and drive me every step and I process things I am struggling with.  Three songs I absolutely LOVE to have on are "Can You Feel My Heart" by Bring Me the Horizon, "Radioactive" by Imagine Dragons, and "Sweater Weather" by The Neighbourhood.  When these songs come on, I have an emotional sensation come over me like a wave.  I feel like this music, those words, that message, the intensity are speaking for me what I cannot speak for myself, and I tend to be pretty good at getting my point across usually if that says anything about how awesome I think these songs are.  No matter what though, there are things that go on in every mind of every human that cannot be spoken and for those of us with music running through us like a stream of magic that keeps color in the world, it can be like someone else peered into you and knew how to say what you couldn't with their music.  I love those songs.

  The album Meteora by Linkin Park was like a living and breathing companion to me during a darker time in my life and it gave me chills anytime I turned it on.  I cannot speak for others, but it is my guess that everyone has those songs that do that for them too.  They come on and they just click for you and you know that that music was made with some kind of higher level inspiration to be that good.  I am extraordinarily picky about music and it takes me a LONG time to find songs I find worth my money or time to listen to.  Florence and the Machine is one of those artists that almost never lets me down.  Her song "Blinding" is an incredible display of the layers upon layers of everything you can do right making music in my opinion.

  Music is a portal.  It possesses the ability to heal, communicate, verbalize, and express and it has unimaginable power.  I am a musician to my core so I probably feel this a little more passionately than others, but I think I am still on the right track for a vast amount of my fellow music lovers.  We all have different blends and constructions to our souls and so different types of music reach into us and somehow connect.  I grew up listening to my mom's favorite music by Journey, The Eagles, Led Zeppelin, Aerosmith, etc...  I have friends who love country music, church hymns, or hard rock.  I have a special place in my heart for orchestral music that is incorporated into pop culture music for obvious reasons as I was in orchestras for a long time.  They are all incredible and they all reach out to someone, somewhere.

  To conclude, I have to state the obvious and say that as a singer, I cannot ever get enough of a song that I can learn and sing along with to push my vocal limits or belt out my feelings.  I don't just hear music, I FEEL it deep down.  When a song comes around that I can really let loose vocally on, I do it and I love it.  My all time favorites to sing are "Walk Away" by Christina Aguilera, "Sleep Like a Child" by Joss Stone, "Just Friends" by Gavin Degraw, "Fix a Heart" by Demi Lovato, "Stay" by Rihanna ft. Mikkey Ekko, "Killing Me Softly" remake by The Fugees, and a handful of Beyonce songs.  I kinda go all out when I am alone and have them playing or am singing to my kids at night.  What speaks to you?  What kind of music do you hear that takes you away to a time of your greatest happiness?  What is your glorious raucous?

Music In My Soul

  I am weird.  Just weird.  I used to get bullied for it back in school and I made adjustments to make my type of weird not lead me to being victimized by my peers.  I still stayed just weird enough to maintain my individuality and uniqueness and I ran with it.  "Popular" kids would try to laugh at or make a game of hurting me in classes in front of teachers (to which nothing was ever done to stop it even once) or during breaks in junior high that made that two years of my life a living hell.  But once high school came into play, they left me alone to pursue whatever social hierarchy appealed to them.  What mattered to me was that they left the the heck alone and when they did, I had a blast.
  I CHOSE to stay me.  I chose to be me no matter how nasty others tried to treat me for it.  I also chose to find people that like me for who I was and enjoyed my special brand of weird.  My greatest refuge during all the times I didn't fit in, or have a friend during a break to talk to, or felt fat and ugly because the other girls made fun of me (out of jealousy because I was neither), was music.  From the time I could talk, I sang.  By the age of four I would grab a stick and sing into AT anyone smaller than myself that would indulge me by playing along.  By the age of seven I happily stood up in front of my great grandparent's church congregation and sang "Holy Bible, Book Divine" solo.  In music I felt fearless.  Music was what my dna was constructed with, the blood that runs through my veins carries beats and tunes through it, and is the way that I connect to the world around me when I stand as a stranger in so many other ways.

I made my first audition choir by fifth grade and did it again in sixth.  Then I found the cello.  Singing was something I could take with me and do anytime I wanted.  The cello required that I had to take a special bus to the junior high from my sixth grade elementary school and do it as an after school activity before I went to swim team practice five days a week.  I made a solid effort and I was a natural because I understood beats and notes and pitches and my hands and fingers almost acted as if they were designed to handle a cello.  I was no prodigy, but I showed up without fail to this after-school program to sit down behind that cello and make music.  When I had to choose choir or strings for my elective class, I never chose choir.  Playing the cello required diligence and commitment and I could sing on my non-cello time at home or to the radio in the car.

  Each year in junior high I was still allowed to audition for the honor choir because I was a music student, and I made it.  I was first pick for the alto section by my second year.  Music is what I am made of.  By the time I went into high school my freshman year, I had to choose one or the other and cello won without question.  I was taught by band teachers how to play a stringed instrument and although they did all they could, they lacked education on certain aspects of how a string player is supposed to play to prevent hand and wrist injuries.  I made the first level school audition choir by my sophomore year and then the highest level audition choir my junior and senior years.  I continued to prioritize the cello and when we finally got cleared to be allowed to audition for the honor orchestra, I took the plunge.
  With no private training of any kind, band teachers helping me to the best of their ability, and hours upon hours of practice, I auditioned with low hopes.  I made it.  I made chair 10 out of 13.  The following year I auditioned again as a senior and I made chair 5 out of 10.  Just days before we were to start driving to Reno for rehearsals, I opened a can of soup and the sharp lid sliced my middle finger open.  It required five stitches in my hand that I used to hit the notes on my cello.  I lost hope for my honor orchestra opportunity but my teacher forced me to go and shift around to use my good fingers to hit the notes.  This music was hard enough that with all my fingers fully functioning that I had to put in three hours of practice a day and now I had to learn how to shift AND play this extremely hard music?
  I sucked it up and played any notes I could, shifted as much as I could, and faked it when I had to.  When the stitches came out, the scar tissue hurt so badly that playing was never the same for me even after the pain resided and healing finished up.  When I went to college I kept with the cello and my wrists gave out on me.  All those years of playing with no private instruction or positioning knowledge finally culminated into tendonitis flaring up in both wrists and I had to let go of that beautiful instrument.  Sometimes I still sneak off to a music store and sit down behind a cello, tune it up, get proper tension and rosin on the bow, and play until my wrist complains.  It is worth it any time I can sneak off to have that time.  The cello gave me more expression then any words I could find for the 8 wonderful years I got to sit down behind it and make musical vibrations echo from its mahogany body.

  When the cello playing had to stop, I still had my voice.  With the exception of the three years during and after I had mono, I have had my voice to comfort me.  I sing in my car and at my computer.  Some nights I sit in my kids room and sing A Capella to them at bedtime until they fall asleep.  I have music running through my head in an almost constant stream.  I look forward to driving for the music.  I look forward to working out because I get to put in my headphones and do nothing but enjoy music while I get healthy and in shape.  I am that weird chick running or biking down the road that looks like she is talking to herself because I mouth the words of my favorite songs as I jog or bike.  I do not care about the hard stares or musing looks on peoples' faces because guess what?  I may be funny to them mouthing words to a song only I can hear, but I am out there sweating and exercising while they stand there gawking.  I call that a win for me.

I am the cellist in the bottom row in my senior year in a music festival competition with the jazz choir.

  So weird or different or unique or unusual, I am me and I am not ashamed and I am not afraid.  If you don't like me, please go find someone you do like and leave me alone.  I am confident and happy and I hope to raise my children to be the same.  I am eager to laugh and I like it when I make others laugh with and not at me.  I also know now I have NEVER been ugly and the closest to fat I have come has been the price I paid to bring four irreplaceable children into this world.  Worth it.  I work very hard to take care of myself and I see beauty in me inside and out.  All of that exists because God knew to make me with music in my soul so that I always had a friend and always had a way to express myself and fit in somewhere.  God is smart like that.  To Him I always have been and always will be grateful for that gift.  And something I especially love is that my children BEG for music, sing to themselves frequently, and when they sing a song together, my soul swells with the sounds of their voices speaking its language.

Z, You Own Me

  Z came into a world full of chaos.  Three older sisters, one very ill, a mommy doing her very best, and a daddy barely holding himself together.  All of us loved him regardless of our personal or family issues.  He was that final piece of the puzzle and he was just right.  He was unhappy if he was set down because he wanted lots and lots of love and he couldn't stand not getting around.  I wore him as much as possible with the assistance of a baby carrier to keep him feeling happy.  It was a good way to keep him close and bond while still making sure the other three were getting all they needed.

My beautiful boy being happy.

  

  I indulged in his eagerness to smile and laugh as much as possible.  He was so excited to have attention and every time he would reach a developmental milestone, I would just soak it how grateful it made me.  He was healthy and after everything we had been through, I had a profound and new understanding and appreciation for things I once took for granted.  He was immediately and understandable the baby of the family both in age and in my mentality.

  His grumpy phase ended as soon as he became mobile.  He wanted to be able to follow me around the house demanding attention and love and getting into anything his sisters were up to.  He loved getting around and getting into anything he could.  His brain worked like a well oiled machine and it was clear very early on that he had his father's mechanical brain.

  

  His dark hair went completely blond and he matched all his blond sisters.  To say he brought joy into our world would be an understatement.  Nowadays he is a busy busy boy.  He is easily bigger than E and they function like twins.  He requires speech therapy because he adapted to E's speech instead of everyone else's in order to talk to her and now we have to help both of them to unlearn bad habits and learn good ones.  People tend to assume E is the youngest rather than her very strong and big baby brother.  They are thick as thieves and it can make me nervous about whatever they come up with, but very happy to know they have a best friend in each other.

E 4 years old, Z 2 years and 10 months.

Halloween at the pumpkin patch.

  Z is a kissy face and I indulge in his sweetness until I have to rein him back to teach boundaries.  If he gets his hands on a screwdriver, he starts taking things apart so fast I don't know what hit me and I have to help him put it back together.  He is very concerned that everyone knows he is a BOY and will wildly proclaim, "I AM A BOY!!" anytime he feels the need to remind us all.  He is hilarious.  He is strong mentally and physically and I look forward to seeing what he takes interest in and excels at.

This boy melts my heart.